Encouraging Your Spouse Toward Doing Good

Two areas to encourage your spouse to grow

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“…let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” Hebrews 10:24

We are introducing a new angle of motivation for most couples in their marriage. One of the roles each person has is to encourage their spouse to become the best person they possibly can be. This can take many forms including professionally, parentally, and spiritually.

The writer to the Hebrews in the Bible gives another approach to encourage people to be their best. He writes, “…let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,” (Hebrews 10:24).

Accept One Another in Marriage

Build a relationally safe marriage

“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” Romans 15:7

“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” Romans 15:7

Acceptance in marriage is a key to feeling relationally safe. When we learn to communicate acceptance of our spouse we create an environment where understanding can flourish.

But acceptance can be hard. Unless this is learned early in a relationship, we can allow negativity toward our spouse to accumulate. We end up consciously and subconsciously conveying a message of rejection. Criticism becomes the norm. Defensiveness flares up quickly. Tempers can be short. Misunderstandings are frequent.