7 Benefits to Building an Enduring Love

Solid reasons to stay together

 

Brad & Heidi the week it “began”!

Do you remember when you and your spouse first kissed? Last week we celebrated the 40th anniversary of our first kiss. In fact, the picture above was taken on that very weekend during our early teenage days. We still remember that first kiss!

Whether your relationship started in your teens like ours or later in life, there are great benefits to building an enduring love. In the famous “love” chapter of the Bible, the Apostle Paul wrote that “love…endures through every circumstance” (1 Corinthians 13:7 NLT). Here are seven benefits to having an enduring love with your spouse:

Forgiveness, Moving Past the Pain

Five things to know about forgiveness and healing

This is part of a series based on anonymous questions we have received at Build Your Marriage conferences across the United States. Some details may be modified to protect the identities of individuals.

“I’ve forgiven my spouse for ___________, but I just can’t get past it.”

C.S. Lewis wrote that, “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” The very decision to forgive is a huge hurdle for many because the offense, pain, and consequences we bear have created deep wounds.

But once we either say out loud or in our heart that we have forgiven our spouse, how do we experience the release of their offense against us? Our spouse moves on and we are stuck with the hurt. So now what do we do?

How to Handle Phone Distraction in Marriage

When devices compete for your attention

This is part of a series based on anonymous questions we have received at Build Your Marriage conferences across the United States. Some details may be modified to protect the identities of individuals.

How can I signal my spouse that their being on the phone while we’re having a conversation hurts me and our relationship?

The distraction of the screen has become prevalent in marriage today. It may be your smartphone, tablet, or computer, but the “ping” or the vibration notifying us that SOMETHING needs our attention or SOMEONE is waiting for a response beckons us. Like Dr. Pavlov’s dogs we are conditioned to respond and it hurts our connection with our spouse.