When was the last time you and your spouse took the time to recount and celebrate the shared history you have together? Your shared experiences are the bricks and mortar that build you up and anchor you down in the storms of life.
It’s easy for the dailyness of life to sweep in and grab our attention. We quickly lose touch with the positive memories and our focus is on the here and now. We forget what made us unique as a couple.
We’ve put together a list of questions and discussion points for the two of you to ask each other. You might take them on a dinner date and ask them all in one evening! Or take them with you on a long drive. Perhaps you’ll do one or two a day when you take a walk in your neighborhood.
As you talk, let your memories remind you how special your love is for one another. The joys you’ve shared are uniquely yours. They are meant to be treasured. Your history together should be celebrated.
- Talk about the day you both met. What were you thinking? Feeling? What made you want to go out again?
- Where was your first date? What were things you did in your dating relationship that you enjoyed?
- Recount the story of your proposal. Recall every detail, feeling and emotion possible. (You might even want to reenact it!)
- What are some fun memories from your wedding?
- What are some fun memories from your honeymoon?
- In your early years of marriage, what are some struggles you can both laugh about now?
- What challenges did you face early in marriage that you appreciate today?
- What are some of your favorite vacations together? Why?
- What are some memorable dates you have had since getting married?
- What are three positive qualities you’ve discovered in your spouse that you didn’t know about (or at least as fully) before you got married?
- Tell each other the story of how you became a Christ-follower and what that means to you today.
- What do you appreciate about your spouse’s faith journey?
- How have you seen God provide for you?
- How have you seen God protect you?
- What have you faced together that has made you stronger as a couple?
- Talk about the positive things you each have done to build your marriage.
- What people have been the positive influencers through the years of your relationship?
- What has been the best season of your marriage? Why?
- Who are some of the close friends you’ve developed as a couple? What did you enjoy about them?
- What strengths does your spouse have that make you a better person?
What other questions would you add to this list? Celebrate your history as you build your marriage!
This is such a great post! I love the questions and the challenge to recount the couple history. My husband and I get to do this from time to time. We actually recently talked about some of our struggles early on that we’re so glad don’t affect us now. Thank God for growth, right!