We are excited to announce an unforgettable experience for you and your spouse as you walk together where Jesus walked and visit key places in Israel. You’ll visit Bethlehem, Jericho, Jerusalem, Galilee, the Mount of Olives, walk the Via Dolorosa, visit the Garden Tomb and more!
This is the first post in a new series based on anonymous questions we have received at Build Your Marriage conferences across the United States. Some details may be modified to protect the identities of individuals.
Question: “How do you keep your feelings out of forgiving someone? Do you believe that some sin is too great to forgive?”
Greet one another with a holy kiss. Romans 16:16
We love to kiss. Whether it’s a quick kiss in public or a long passionate kiss in private, kissing is important to a healthy marriage. The bride said to her lover in the Song of Solomon, “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth…” (Song of Solomon 1:2).
Sadly, according to a study sponsored by the British Health Foundation, 20% of married couples kiss only once a week! And 40% of those couples only kiss for 5 seconds. And only 5% of those couples aged 45 and up kiss on average four times a day.
LETS RESOLVE TO KISS OUR SPOUSE A WHOLE LOT MORE OFTEN!
“Bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2
“I want a divorce.” For six weeks this husband repeated his desire to his wife. “You’re not meeting my needs. I’m out of here.” She had been consumed with caring for her father in the hospital and their three children. He had been consumed…with himself.
“Clothe yourselves with humility toward one another.” 1 Peter 5:5
If we were to swing by your home and look at your bedroom closet (don’t worry!) what would we find? Who has the majority of the closet? Is there a particular color one of you likes to wear? Who has more shoes? Does one or both of you rotate your clothes in and out of the closet depending on the season? How about in your kitchen? Do you use an apron when you cook? Is there a his and hers apron?
In his first letter, the apostle Peter writes about an article of “clothing” that every Christ-follower should wear. Nowhere is this piece of clothing more important than in the intimacy of a marriage relationship. He writes,
“Be kind and compassionate to one another….” Ephesians 4:32
Kindness and compassion are often desired and forgotten in the dailyness of marriage. Life gets busy. We may answer our spouse sharply. We don’t have the time or patience for their burdens because we have enough of our own. “Just pull it together and keep moving!” is what our attitude expresses. Instead of building our marriage in little ways each day, we slowly dismantle the relationship we’re to cherish the most.
“…stop passing judgment on one another.” Romans 14:13
“Stop judging me!” Judging, along with criticism, can be one of the greatest killers to marital unity. While criticism looks at words, actions and results–people who judge are condemning the person who does those things. A critic may say,” That’s a terrible idea!” But a judger would say, “Whoever came up with that idea is an idiot!”