Like any other couple, we have seen our share of change in almost 35 years of marriage. And so have you. There are all kinds of things that can change in our lives: health, job, career, having children, moving, financial (up or down), deaths, accidents, church, friendships, and the list goes on. And even if only one of you is facing a change of some kind, it affects both of you…and your marriage.
For over 60 years the game show, “To Tell The Truth” has aired on television and it’s basically an exercise in honesty. Have you ever watched it? Here’s how it’s played: four celebrity panelists ask questions of three participants. One of the contestants truly has had an unusual occupation or experience while the other two contestants are imposters trying to throw off the celebrities. Only one of the three contestants is actually telling the truth. It’s a great show!
But in marriage, if you or your spouse is regularly wondering if they are hearing the truth or a fabrication, it’s no game. The “white lies,” “casual lies,” and layers of deception erode the very foundation of a marriage. Trust is broken and it can take a long time to rebuild trust and restore the value of absolute honesty in a marriage.