How to Honor Each Other in Marriage

Recognizing Your Spouse's Value


“Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10b

Over the past two years we’ve had the privilege of speaking for the Christian Law Enforcement Fellowship of San Diego’s marriage retreat. We love these men and women. We are so thankful for the sacrifice that these officers and their families make for their community’s protection. Being with them has given us an even greater respect for what these officers lay on the line every day.

Whenever we are in the presence of people who are in law-enforcement—at home or when traveling—we make it a point to try and tell them that we appreciate their work and service. It is our effort to honor these men and women.

7 Qualities of Jesus’ Love for Your Marriage

Love One Another


“…just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34b-35

We wish that we could report that we always feel loving toward one another. After all, we have a ministry called “Build Your Marriage.” But the truth is, sometimes sin and selfishness creep in. We can get under each other’s skin. And while we are committed to and love each other, we don’t always feel loving.

It’s at moments like that when the Holy Spirit reminds us afresh of Jesus’ words about loving each other as he has loved us. Our faith in Christ has to work at home and in our marriage first.

The Three C’s for Your Bedroom

The Most Important Room in Your Home


“…the bed we share is like a forest glen. We enjoy a canopy of cedars enclosed by cypresses, fragrant and green.” Song of Solomon 1:16 (The Message)

The Song of Solomon well describes the joy of a bedroom that is pleasant. The right atmosphere can help your sleep, intimacy, connection, and relaxation.

A few years ago we were moving into a home and several people were helping us unload.

Celebrate Your Marriage on a Caribbean Cruise!

2017 Eastern Caribbean Cruise and Marriage Conference

Celebrate your marriage with us in the Caribbean this February! We will go to some great islands, build friendships, and have four marriage sessions while at sea. We’ll even have an optional vow renewal ceremony. It’s going to be FUN! Bring your friends–or a group from church. The deadline to reserve your cabin is early October–so reserve your spot soon. Watch the video and click this here to learn more. 

When “You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feeling”

Young Couple Seated Back To Back --- Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis

Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis

In 1965 The Righteous Brothers first released “You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feelin’” and it quickly shot to the top of the charts in the United States and the UK. It’s been covered by a number of different artists through the years. In all, this song was the most played song on American Radio in the 20th Century.

Why has this song resonated with people for over sixty years? One reason could be that so many of us have had the experience of a person we love who no longer desires us. The “feeling” of love is gone. Countless separations and divorces have been explained by the words, “We just weren’t in love with each other anymore.”

Four Ingredients of Love

Couple baking together

If you were baking a chocolate cake there would be some key ingredients you would need. Most of those  wouldn’t taste good by themselves (except chocolate!). It’s only after the ingredients have been properly prepared that the dish turns out as it’s intended.

In a similar way, there are a number of different “ingredients” that make our commitment to our spouse sweeter in the “mix” of our marriage. Blended together they yield a wonderful outcome.

2017 Eastern Caribbean Marriage Cruise!

Sail the romantic seas and Build Your Marriage!

Sail the romantic seas and Build Your Marriage!

What better way to invest in your marriage than to get away to focus on each other? This seven-day cruise is the perfect opportunity to grow close to each other and enjoy four marriage sessions with Brad and Heidi. You will visit Puerto Rico, St. Maarten, and St. Kitts and have three days at sea.

Reserve your cabin and get ready to Build Your Marriage in 2017 in the tropics!

Click this link to reserve your place and get ready to Build Your Marriage in the tropics!