She’s To Die For

Loving Your Wife Like Jesus

Heather and Sonny Melton

With the horrific tragedy of the Las Vegas shooting came stories of sacrifice, heroism, and bravery. In the face of evil came multiple accounts of first responders, off-duty cops, and ordinary citizens doing everything necessary to save lives and bring comfort.

One of the stories that gripped the world was that of a married couple from Tennessee, Sonny and Heather Melton. They had traveled to Las Vegas and were attending the Harvest 91 concert.

Recounting what happened Heather said, “When we realized it was gunshots going off and not fireworks like everyone thought, I said let’s get down and he said, ‘No, we’ll get trampled. Let’s go, let’s go.’”

11 Qualities of a Phenomenal Marriage

Choosing to rise above the status quo

We want every couple to have a phenomenal marriage and that’s why we are committed to Build Your Marriage! We offer free resources through social media and our website to help you take your next steps as a couple. In addition, we travel across the country providing marriage conferences.

But what are some key qualities that make a phenomenal marriage? Here are 11 for you to consider:

When You Think Your Spouse Is Lazy Part 2

How to deal with real or perceived laziness in marriage

It’s not uncommon for one spouse to feel like they’re carrying the lion’s share of the load in the marriage. Whether real or perceived, it can create a strain in the marriage.

In our last post we talked about some important considerations when laziness presents itself. But what are some practical steps you can take to bring about a solution? Here are five things you can do:

7 Benefits to Building an Enduring Love

Solid reasons to stay together


Brad & Heidi the week it “began”!

Do you remember when you and your spouse first kissed? Last week we celebrated the 40th anniversary of our first kiss. In fact, the picture above was taken on that very weekend during our early teenage days. We still remember that first kiss!

Whether your relationship started in your teens like ours or later in life, there are great benefits to building an enduring love. In the famous “love” chapter of the Bible, the Apostle Paul wrote that “love…endures through every circumstance” (1 Corinthians 13:7 NLT). Here are seven benefits to having an enduring love with your spouse:

Forgiveness, Moving Past the Pain

Five things to know about forgiveness and healing

This is part of a series based on anonymous questions we have received at Build Your Marriage conferences across the United States. Some details may be modified to protect the identities of individuals.

“I’ve forgiven my spouse for ___________, but I just can’t get past it.”

C.S. Lewis wrote that, “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” The very decision to forgive is a huge hurdle for many because the offense, pain, and consequences we bear have created deep wounds.

But once we either say out loud or in our heart that we have forgiven our spouse, how do we experience the release of their offense against us? Our spouse moves on and we are stuck with the hurt. So now what do we do?

How to Handle Phone Distraction in Marriage

When devices compete for your attention

This is part of a series based on anonymous questions we have received at Build Your Marriage conferences across the United States. Some details may be modified to protect the identities of individuals.

How can I signal my spouse that their being on the phone while we’re having a conversation hurts me and our relationship?

The distraction of the screen has become prevalent in marriage today. It may be your smartphone, tablet, or computer, but the “ping” or the vibration notifying us that SOMETHING needs our attention or SOMEONE is waiting for a response beckons us. Like Dr. Pavlov’s dogs we are conditioned to respond and it hurts our connection with our spouse.

12 Reasons to Host a Build Your Marriage Event

Having a marriage conference can transform families!

Brad and Heidi Mitchell

Hosting a Build Your Marriage event at your church or retreat center is rewarding and impacting. Through the years God has provided opportunities for us to speak at conferences from coast to coast. As we travel we see healthy marriages grow stronger, hurting couples find hope, and miracles of grace and healing that only God can do when couples make room for him to work.

When you offer a Build Your Marriage event it’s well worth the time and planning because of what YOU get out of it as well as the attendees. You have the opportunity to participate in the transformation of marriages and families.

Here are 12 reasons you should consider inviting Build Your Marriage to your location: