Greet one another with a holy kiss. Romans 16:16
We love to kiss. Whether it’s a quick kiss in public or a long passionate kiss in private, kissing is important to a healthy marriage. The bride said to her lover in the Song of Solomon, “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth…” (Song of Solomon 1:2).
Sadly, according to a study sponsored by the British Health Foundation, 20% of married couples kiss only once a week! And 40% of those couples only kiss for 5 seconds. And only 5% of those couples aged 45 and up kiss on average four times a day.
LETS RESOLVE TO KISS OUR SPOUSE A WHOLE LOT MORE OFTEN!
“Bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2
“I want a divorce.” For six weeks this husband repeated his desire to his wife. “You’re not meeting my needs. I’m out of here.” She had been consumed with caring for her father in the hospital and their three children. He had been consumed…with himself.
On Saturday one of our good friends passed away. Mark never knew when he started his day that it would end in heaven. When he left his house to go to a local store he never knew his next destination would be his heavenly home.
“Clothe yourselves with humility toward one another.” 1 Peter 5:5
If we were to swing by your home and look at your bedroom closet (don’t worry!) what would we find? Who has the majority of the closet? Is there a particular color one of you likes to wear? Who has more shoes? Does one or both of you rotate your clothes in and out of the closet depending on the season? How about in your kitchen? Do you use an apron when you cook? Is there a his and hers apron?
In his first letter, the apostle Peter writes about an article of “clothing” that every Christ-follower should wear. Nowhere is this piece of clothing more important than in the intimacy of a marriage relationship. He writes,
“Be kind and compassionate to one another….” Ephesians 4:32
Kindness and compassion are often desired and forgotten in the dailyness of marriage. Life gets busy. We may answer our spouse sharply. We don’t have the time or patience for their burdens because we have enough of our own. “Just pull it together and keep moving!” is what our attitude expresses. Instead of building our marriage in little ways each day, we slowly dismantle the relationship we’re to cherish the most.
“…stop passing judgment on one another.” Romans 14:13
“Stop judging me!” Judging, along with criticism, can be one of the greatest killers to marital unity. While criticism looks at words, actions and results–people who judge are condemning the person who does those things. A critic may say,” That’s a terrible idea!” But a judger would say, “Whoever came up with that idea is an idiot!”
Couple Working in Homeless Shelter — Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis
“…let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” Hebrews 10:24
We are introducing a new angle of motivation for most couples in their marriage. One of the roles each person has is to encourage their spouse to become the best person they possibly can be. This can take many forms including professionally, parentally, and spiritually.
The writer to the Hebrews in the Bible gives another approach to encourage people to be their best. He writes, “…let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,” (Hebrews 10:24).
Holidays can be stressful on a marriage. We WANT peace and joy, but often end up with tension and frustration. How can we navigate the holidays as a marital team so that we can embrace the celebration of the season?