Brad was raised in a family that had a farming legacy. His grandfather had a company that raised hybrid seed for corn and other crops. At one point, his grandparents raised 300 acres of Orville Redenbacher popcorn!
His grandfather knew that when he planted oats, he would get oats. When he planted corn seed, he would reap a harvest of corn (or popcorn!). It was a simple law of sowing and reaping.
Brad and his Dad
On April 24, 2016, Brad’s dad passed away. Immediately, our family was brought together in a time of grief and mourning.
Facing the loss of a loved one will be part of your life together as a couple. It may be grief from a parent dying, a miscarriage, or loss through a traumatic event. But nearly every couple will go through a season of loss and grieving.
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How do we rebuild trust after a poorly handled conflict? The first step is to own our stuff.
A myth is “a widely held but false belief or idea.” When we believe a myth to be true we are choosing to believe a lie. Unfortunately, many people buy into a myth in marriage that leads to dire consequences to themselves and those around them.
Let’s face it, temptation can assault our marriages in a lot of different forms. The Enemy will attack every one of us not only where we are weak, but where we think we are strong.
How would you describe what it is like to be around a consistently negative person? The kind of person who longs for rain on a sunny day and for whom the glass is always half empty. Wouldn’t you agree that an individual like that can be a difficult person to be around?
In our work with couples we have seen marriages crash and burn because one or both persons have chosen to focus their negative attitude toward their spouse. Even after they are confronted with the issue, they continue their negative behavior. They refuse to change their attitude and accentuate the positive in their marriage.
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In 1965 The Righteous Brothers first released “You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feelin’” and it quickly shot to the top of the charts in the United States and the UK. It’s been covered by a number of different artists through the years. In all, this song was the most played song on American Radio in the 20th Century.
Why has this song resonated with people for over sixty years? One reason could be that so many of us have had the experience of a person we love who no longer desires us. The “feeling” of love is gone. Countless separations and divorces have been explained by the words, “We just weren’t in love with each other anymore.”
What do you do when your spouse annoys you? Do you just put up with it? Do you nag them about it? Has something become a source of irritation and put distance between the two of you?
Sometimes, it doesn’t take much for something to get under our skin, does it? Like the person driving in front of us whose turn signal has been on for miles? Or the individual who chooses the “15 items or less” line with more than 30 items in their cart? Maybe it’s the co-worker who is consistently late for meetings. But those are all situations that we can leave behind us when we go home.
The challenge comes when there are mannerisms or behaviors of our spouse that we allow to get under our skin. It may not seem like a big deal, but experts agree that these annoyances are things that need to be addressed or they will fester and become major issues in our marriage.