If you travel for work on a regular basis, you know that the glamor quickly loses its luster. Loneliness is a frequent companion. You miss your spouse. You miss your children. You miss your home (and your bed!). You miss your friends.
The dangers of loneliness on the road to a marriage are real. As a business traveler, there are some things you can do to build your marriage and keep the bond of trust solid with your spouse. Here are four areas of focus with some practical ideas to implement when you are on the road:
Every year over 34 million Americans travel domestically or internationally for work. This kind of travel can take a deep toll on any marriage. According to a 2012 study by Harris Interactive, 70% of respondents who had experienced a failed marriage said business travel was a contributing factor.
In order to protect and build your marriage, here are some things that you can do when your spouse travels for work. Next week, we’ll give some insight for the traveling spouse on how to build your marriage while away.
Do you struggle with wanting to criticize your spouse? Almost all of us have either experienced criticism in our marriage, or observed it in our family of origin.
Criticism is when we blame, shame, and attack the character and nature of another person. Criticism often begins with phrases like: “You never,” “You always,” and “You are….”
Are you bored in your marriage? We hear this all too often in our work with couples. It actually can be a warning sign of vulnerability to other stimuli or people filling the void and threatening the sanctity of a marriage.
Simply breaking your routine and adding fresh experiences to your marriage can stimulate romance. You will experience each other in new ways. The two of you will add shared memories to your history that no one else could have with you. What follows are 10 steps to break out of boredom.
Do you know what your spouse’s spiritual gifts are? When was the last time you two talked about your spiritual gifts? If you’re like most couples, you may not know what your gifts are, let alone your spouse’s spiritual gifts..
Learning about spiritual gifts can set you and your spouse on an exciting and new spiritual trajectory!
- You have the opportunity to learn new things about your spouse.
- You are empowered to help them grow in their relationship with Jesus.
- You can help them find a new expression of who they are in Christ.
As a result, the partnership the two of you share will deepen your intimacy with each other and with Christ.
Who do you have that keeps you accountable in your marriage? Do you have someone who will ask you how you have been treating your spouse? Do you have anyone who helps you keep your commitment to your spouse?
We all get discouraged. The triggers for discouragement can come in all sizes and shapes. Perhaps a mean comment was made at work. It could be a season of hardship in a relationship. Financial challenges can weigh us down. Not making the spiritual progress we desire can be frustrating.
Sooner or later in marriage, your spouse will face discouragement. How can you step in and be a support?
Brad was raised in a family that had a farming legacy. His grandfather had a company that raised hybrid seed for corn and other crops. At one point, his grandparents raised 300 acres of Orville Redenbacher popcorn!
His grandfather knew that when he planted oats, he would get oats. When he planted corn seed, he would reap a harvest of corn (or popcorn!). It was a simple law of sowing and reaping.