7 Benefits to Building an Enduring Love

Solid reasons to stay together

 

Brad & Heidi the week it “began”!

Do you remember when you and your spouse first kissed? Last week we celebrated the 40th anniversary of our first kiss. In fact, the picture above was taken on that very weekend during our early teenage days. We still remember that first kiss!

Whether your relationship started in your teens like ours or later in life, there are great benefits to building an enduring love. In the famous “love” chapter of the Bible, the Apostle Paul wrote that “love…endures through every circumstance” (1 Corinthians 13:7 NLT). Here are seven benefits to having an enduring love with your spouse:

Forgiveness, Moving Past the Pain

Five things to know about forgiveness and healing

This is part of a series based on anonymous questions we have received at Build Your Marriage conferences across the United States. Some details may be modified to protect the identities of individuals.

“I’ve forgiven my spouse for ___________, but I just can’t get past it.”

C.S. Lewis wrote that, “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” The very decision to forgive is a huge hurdle for many because the offense, pain, and consequences we bear have created deep wounds.

But once we either say out loud or in our heart that we have forgiven our spouse, how do we experience the release of their offense against us? Our spouse moves on and we are stuck with the hurt. So now what do we do?

How to Handle Phone Distraction in Marriage

When devices compete for your attention

This is part of a series based on anonymous questions we have received at Build Your Marriage conferences across the United States. Some details may be modified to protect the identities of individuals.

How can I signal my spouse that their being on the phone while we’re having a conversation hurts me and our relationship?

The distraction of the screen has become prevalent in marriage today. It may be your smartphone, tablet, or computer, but the “ping” or the vibration notifying us that SOMETHING needs our attention or SOMEONE is waiting for a response beckons us. Like Dr. Pavlov’s dogs we are conditioned to respond and it hurts our connection with our spouse.

12 Reasons to Host a Build Your Marriage Event

Having a marriage conference can transform families!

Brad and Heidi Mitchell

Hosting a Build Your Marriage event at your church or retreat center is rewarding and impacting. Through the years God has provided opportunities for us to speak at conferences from coast to coast. As we travel we see healthy marriages grow stronger, hurting couples find hope, and miracles of grace and healing that only God can do when couples make room for him to work.

When you offer a Build Your Marriage event it’s well worth the time and planning because of what YOU get out of it as well as the attendees. You have the opportunity to participate in the transformation of marriages and families.

Here are 12 reasons you should consider inviting Build Your Marriage to your location:

Celebrate Your Anniversary

Making your special day...special!

Brad and Heidi celebrating their 2017 wedding anniversary at a Boney James jazz concert

We love to celebrate and we make it a priority in our marriage to celebrate each other. The most important celebration is our anniversary and while we don’t go “all-out” each year, we make sure it’s a special day.

What amazes us is how many couples we meet who don’t celebrate their anniversary. When we ask them why we get a variety of answers:

“My Marriage is Hurting My Ministry”

Keeping marriage and ministry in perspective

This is part of a new series based on anonymous questions we have received at Build Your Marriage conferences across the United States. Some details may be modified to protect the identities of individuals.

How do you handle life when it seems like your marriage or spouse keeps you from fulfilling the great commission/God’s calling on your life?

This is a question we run into rather frequently. Sadly, we’ve seen couples separate and divorce over this issue.

You may be quite frustrated because you believe God has given you a ministry or a burning desire to make a kingdom impact, but your spouse is resistant to your pursuit of your “calling.” Perhaps from your perspective your spouse is keeping you from being fully obedient to Jesus. As a result, you feel torn.

Building a Family That Celebrates Together

Mitchell Family Celebrations

Have you wondered why we haven’t blogged much so far this year? Here’s why…

This spring has been very busy for us. In the last five weeks we had one daughter graduate from grad school (bottom right), another graduate from college (bottom left), our son got married, and our youngest daughter moved to another city for her internship and career! Whew!

Looking back on the major life events each of our children experienced, we saw something quite extraordinary.